The Three Nice Things Rule
Recently I’ve been working on a project with people that… it’s like I finally understand what high school group projects were trying to prepare me for.
I know that there’s a possibility that I might get asked my opinion on the people I’m working with and I don’t want to be sitting on the spot trying to come up with something that won’t ruffle feathers.
I think being honest is important, but I’m definitely not a fan of the “brutal honesty” trend the world seems to be into. Tact is important, and sometimes your Mom was right- if you don’t have something nice to say it’s better to say nothing at all.
Situations like this come up all the time so I try to find three nice things to say about anybody. Whether it be their grammar- “they never mix up they’re, their, and there!” Their physical appearance- “they’re always wearing really cool lipstick colours!” Or even a hobby- “I like how dedicated they are to finding new music!”
Sometimes you have to work with people you just plain don’t gel with and when it’s a matter as simple as that all you can do is hope you finish up the project without any major altercations. It’s best to remember that you don’t have to be best friends with everyone but being polite costs nothing.